"Amurikans", This One is for You.

I was not going to write something political or unrelated to SL. I was not going to do it  but I cannot help but feel so passionate on this subject. Here I am, residing in one of the most richest and privileged countries in the world and I feel like I'm the only one who actually fucking appreciates it.

Now this is not all election based, you see for years and for a few elections I have seen Americans whine and cry over who wins as president. Fine, feel upset..I can sympathize. You believe in someone so it's natural to want them to come on top, but what is really getting my goat is the number of people who are wishing to secede. Yes, SECEDE. There are many Texans, and others in states signing petitions to remove themselves from America. Are you fucking kidding me? You want to give up your citizenship? Well fuck then hand it on over to me. Me, and other foreigners who have come here want nothing more than to take your place.

Many of these people need to realize one thing: they're spoiled. That's right, the average fucking American is spoiled rotten and not realizing it. We sit in our central air controlled homes, with our washers, dryers, cable, clean tap water and insulation and take it all for granted. We're also wasteful as hell. I'm from Japan, and we don't even use clothes dryers..and central air? HAH. We have room to room units for air conditioning. And in some of the older homes? Heating? Forget it. We have a room for a fire but otherwise we bundle the fuck up. I won't even go into the time I spent in China and how the average person over there lives. They're just grateful for a meal everyday and able to boil their water to drink. Even in the winter when many of them are cold and shivering, I never heard a complaint or a whine. All smiles, all family and friend. 

Yet here I see if someone's wireless go out for even an hour, they go on a bitch fit like it's the end of the world. It makes me sick, but for the most part I hold my tongue cause I realize most Americans don't know better. They assume everyone has the luxuries they have, so I'll forgive that ignorance, I guess. Yet stop and think before you say you wish to "leave" the United States. Think really hard on what you would be giving up and sacrificing before you think you want to leave or secede. Ready to give up your social security? Ready to give up the government that will come to your aide in a natural disaster? Ready to give up on equal rights? I could go on forever..but if you are still stuck on packing up..Well, don't let the door hit your ass on the way out. 

I may not be an American, yet, but I am proud to be here. Take some pride in your country. Especially to those who never left it, you honestly have no idea how blessed you are.

- Until next time,

Yu 

Karma

First off, I will say this post is very much in relation to my previous written post on friendship.

Karma. Is it real? Is it myth? Well if you want to put it in more common sense, karma is a more spiritual way of looking at the Newton's third law, "To every action there is always an equal and opposite reaction." Fear not my few readers, I am not here to give you science lesson, I am here to exemplify the word of karma and how everything has a consequence....and it even applies to Second Life.

Consequences. We are all held accountable for our actions. For example, if we do not go to work without informing anyone, it is possible we will get fired. If we hit someone with our car, we will have to pay for the damages. Everything in this world is full of consequences for the things we do..but for some reason people on Second Life think they should not, nor cannot be held accountable for their actions. Yet I am here to say that this is very untrue.

Let me remind you all, even though SL is a virtual world and we are hidden behind our screens, we are still dealing with real people with real emotions..and believe it or not, these people also have brains. We are not mindless drones and therefore we think for ourselves. Therefore it is natural for people to say "enough is enough." Especially if a friend is proving to be someone other than that. And while we may wish to mend our friendships, there is a time when we realize there are people within Second Life who are not here to make friends, but to use, abuse and overall manipulate the people around them. Some people are lacking love, control or self confidence in RL, so they use SL as a tool to take back that control or that need for attention. Hell, I actually worry about the people who spend a little too much on SL, cause it means perhaps they are lacking that RL interaction every human being should have. Yet I won't get into that, I am going off-topic.

My main point is that karma still exists in Second Life. Everyone only gets so many chances until people begin to realize who they actually are. While it may be easy to sit there and blame everyone else around you, instead of being accountable for your own actions, you should really stop and look around. Perhaps there is a reason people around you are defriending you, ignoring you and overall stop caring about you. Can you honestly still sit there and play the victim game? Can you really just continue to call everyone a "betrayer" and "bad friend" while you remain guilt free?  Sorry to say, the world has not gone mad. There is no one turning people against you...karma has suddenly come to smack you in the face.

You see, treat people the way you want to be treated. Treasure your friends and loved ones..and lastly, take some goddamn responsibility for your actions and words. Pride. Ego. Self-Importance. All of these things are not worth being alone for. And while you may think you're the best thing that has happened to your friends and loved ones, you're really not. No one is lucky to be your friend, you should stop and count your blessing. I know I do, because I have learned from my mistakes and my karma.

I can only hope people learn from their own lessons as well, or they will never grow.

Until next time,

Yu

The Little Things

Normally I am not a morning person. Seeing me conscious before 9 am usually means something or someone woke me up and as a result all with suffer. Of course this time it was my alarm, but I also saw another thing on my phone that instantly put a smile on my face.



It's the little things that can change a person's perspective and day. Yesterday I pondered over the things that  bring me down and the things that uplift me. Overall happiness will never be reached because there will always be negative forces in your life. Perhaps the most important thing though is to focus on the things that make you smile instead of dwelling on things you cannot control. Therefore instead of revolving my day around the negative I took time to embrace the positive.



Now the positive can come from many things, and not just people around you. I find listening to music in the morning motivates me and uplifts my spirit. I also take time to sit down and give my dogs proper loving. Certain things I see or read on FB, restoring my faith in humanity. Again, it will always be the tiniest things that can change your whole day. While its the negative thoughts, negative people, or the fucking cold weather outside that try to drag you down, you have to remember the small things that get you through the day.

My nephew posted a LONG ass status appreciating all the people that make him smile. I'm sure it made a lot of people happy. Everything takes a bit nurturing, even the best of relationships. Even though you are already happy as can be, don't forget the details. A simple text, a smile or even a wave to a stranger can completely change the outcome of a day. Even though I feel cheesy writing this, I am slowly learning that being happy is more important than always being "right." That friends mean more than pride. Lastly, anyone who tries to get me down is not even worth a thought. There are many beautiful things going on around us, and if we stop to take in the good rather than the bad we can easily turn around the mood.

In a previous blog "Let it Go" I also talked about negativity. While we all have our weak moments and cannot help but feel depressed, sad or hopeless, this is normal. Usually when I feel this way I know it's time to just go to bed and wake up with a fresh start because staying awake and being self-destructive helps no one. Sadly I know plenty of people who thrive on the negative like it's their favorite meal of the day. It fuels them, not realizing that not only that it is destructive to themselves but also to the people around them. A negative thought is contagious in the brain...one thought gives birth to many and before you realize it you're stuck in a dark place and inconsolable.

That is why taking a breath and focusing on the positive is most important. While most upset people don't like to hear "think positive," it does hold true. Then again, I think those negative people have to realize it for themselves. Course I know I won't always be this mushy. Maybe I am just having a good day, or maybe someone slipped drugs in my coffee, either way, I want to try to keep this attitude for awhile.

Until next time,

- Yu

.Just Breath.

OMG A Fashion Post

Hello,

Well since I have been living quite peacefully, I have nothing to bitch about today. Haha, Good Job SL, you have managed to stay a little less drama filled than usual. Kudos.

Since I can't costume up and do Halloween RL, I decided to put together an original costume/look for the hell of it on SL. It really started with the horns, then with some inspiration from Mononoke (Kodama), I was able to piece this together.

Hope you like it.

Skin -  the body co. - Ash (med)

Shape - Dura -Custom-

Eyes - AVId: - Black moon eyes

Horns -ni.ju- Eurexiaun Horns

Hair -*Rock Candy*  -  Fiery (white)

Claws - Faeilin- Claws v.6.1 

Ropes - "ROPES"  - Slave Male

Shoulder Guard - CCR - Arrancar Arm and Shoulder

Tattoo - .Little Pricks. - The Warrior - full Body white

Faun Set - *RoTtEn DeFiAnCe* - White Fall Faun 

Mask -[LANEVO]- Kodama 

Stress Seeping Through

Well it's been a few since I posted last. My RL, though not extremely busy is still taking me away from my Second Life. Perhaps the most important thing for me at the moment is to find a job. I am sure many of you can relate, especially in this economy.

It is not just the money that I need, unfortunately a good job is also what I need to root me to this country. Again I am on a time crunch and I will probably need a job before the holidays. Therefore each passing day I feel the weight of finding one. Course this article is not going to feature me bitching about my RL. We all have problems we have to deal with and many stresses, which is why I believed I made a mistake the other day and let my real life stress affect negatively on my SL experience.

I constantly tell my friends and family on SL that unlike real life, we have many choices. In real life, whether it be a work environment, family or even friends..it is not so easy to block the negativity that hits us daily. Second Life allows us to cut that out with a click of a button. Someone harassing you? Mute them. Someone coming onto your property? Ban them. These wonderful features cut the stress and allow us to enjoy our Second Lives. That's why I always encourage my loved ones to let go of those who are poison, because SL is meant to be enjoyed..and maybe even an escape from our daily RL stress.


Of course we are all human. Sometimes we can't help it. For example yesterday I had such an awful day. What I thought would be a day long interview for a good company, I found out it was another pyramid scam. You know, the type of job where you go business to business selling shit? Sure, they have a base salary..only if you open 8 new accounts a week, otherwise its commission. There were no benefits, no payment for the mileage of traveling etc. To say the least it was very disappointing and long day. I probably should have gone home and laid down for a while, listened to music and give myself time to calm down before logging in. I did the exact opposite, I walked straight into my room, took off my jacket and without changing out of my uncomfortable suit, I logged onto SL.


 Focused on my own bad day, I could not absorb the surroundings or other people's feelings. I tped into my club and was immediately surrounded by people and IMs. To say the least I was feeling overwhelmed, but I wanted to be there nonetheless. Still, the stress I felt that day gave me absolute zero patience, which resulted in an even worse day when I got into a fight. I will not go into it as it is my own personal business, but I did learn one thing important.. the need to drop my stress from whatever the day I had before logging on. In the end, none of us want to take out our frustrations on everyone else around us, especially to loved ones. Sadly though alot of people are on SL for that very reason. I do not find it excusable.

I hear people say: "Cut him/her a break, you have no idea what is going on in their RL right now."

And sure, maybe they are going through something and it causes them to act out, but it's no excuse to treat others poorly around you daily because of a chip on your shoulder. We are all on SL to unwind and experience things in a stress-free way. If we always selfishly harbor our bad realities and take them out on strangers, it overall makes for a bad internet environment. So I will encourage myself and others to stop and take a deep breath before logging on. If RL is kicking you in the nuts or ovaries, the last thing you want to do is turn it on the people who do care about you. I find that listening to music or watching TV..or even having a cigarette and petting my dogs helps.

Even I can learn things too now and then.

Until next time,

Yu

Let It Go

It's been a moment since I had a chance to write, but of course even from my small hiatus from the internet did not stop time. Drama still ensued as normal. Though it would be easy to go into what the exact drama is or once again why people feel the need to cause it, there is one thing I would simply like to say.

Why can't anyone just..let it go?

I mean this with all honesty. You see this drama is not random, it is simply fueled by individuals holding an ancient grudge and hate towards others. Yet it makes me wonder how petty can you be? First off, whatever misunderstanding or tiff that happened, it was probably long ago. If not? I bet it was over something very small, like a club scheduling for instance. [ ;) ]. Or for the mere fact that its Second Life.  So it makes me wonder what causes people to hold grudges for so long and to cause them to invest time into "ruining" someone else on SL.

Yes I said "ruin", in quotations. Why? Cause it's hilarious. Since SL is a place were you cannot kill someone, or physically hurt them, the next best thing I guess you can do is try to harm their reputation. As if that honestly works. I still know people who run around crying about me, but its ironic. All those who have something horrible to say about me actually know nothing about me. I think its even more funny for them to try to tell my close friends these things, cause I know they scoff at it.

My SL is for me to have fun. Therefore when I came back and heard all the recent drama I simply said 'I don't give a fuck what they do.' ... After all they are the ones obsessing. You know you should take a deep breath and try letting go whatever unimportant grudge you hold, because it's not worth it.

Check this out from this website.

. When we are in a negative state we do not attract those elements that would make our lives advance; rather we attract the circumstances that support us in thinking something is wrong, and we get stuck. Simply put, when we stay thinking negative, we attract negative emotions and events. Thus when one is in a negative state everything seems to go wrong.

So honestly kiddos, you ain't doing yourselves any favors. Whats even more hilarious is that I notice most of these negative Nancies flock together. It's like a cluster of hate, while pretending to be the most loving group of friends. Deep down I know none of them trust each other, and they will continually drag each other down. Well this is dandy with me, cause I've long since let it go.

Let just hope others take my advice. It's 10x more healthy to think on the good things than dwell over a couple of asshats on the internet.

Until next time,

Yu

Alt Abuse

I been meaning to write this sooner, but I have been preoccupied with a lot of things. I spent half the day at the doctors, rest of it in bed. I also plan to spend the majority of my day in bed..and maybe get some fresh air.  If you're wondering what I was at the doctor's for yesterday, too bad. Either you know or you don't, again my blog will not reflect that part of my life.

I didn't want to wait any longer to write this. I feel like if I stop writing in here for an extended amount of time, I will never write it in again. Now onto the topic.

Alts..most, if not everyone has one on Second Life. We use alts for multiple purposes. They can be used as models, banks, bots or even holding name purposes. Other people like  myself had made alts for artistic purposes. I made my alt not only for some peace, but also to explore a darker side and use him to indulge into the arts. He is an extension of myself but is still me. I have entrusted a number of my friends to know who my alt is so they can contact me. My alt is not there for deception.

Now, this is where I get to the main point of the title. Alt abuse. How many is too many? Also, why do people think it is okay to continuously make alts in order to harass someone. If they block you the first time, shouldn't that give you the hint? I do not see the reason why someone would also make an alt to spread rumors around. This has not happened to me, but this has happened to two dear people of mine. For instance someone made an alt and spread rumors about him and to anyone who hung out with him..to tarnish any reputation or chance of a relationship. Another friend had to deal with an ex-friend of theirs alting, making fake logs and making a sad attempt to ruin her business.

Seriously folks, how much fucking time do you have?

I can barely balance two alts, let alone thinking of making even more to bug and harass people. Then again it gets worse. The two alts I mentioned above were just noobs, blanks. No pictures, early creation date and they were never used again...but others? People will put a lot of linden and love into their alt. They'll make it pretty and perfect and set it out into SL. So..whats the problem? I did the same thing with my alt. Yet lets make this clear.

I do not, nor will ever use my alt to harass the current people I know. Nor will I try use him to play mind games or to cheat on my boyfriend. None of that is sane to me..yet it happens. I can name a few people in the gay community who love making alts. Hell, I know one guy who made and alt recently and is passing it off as his boyfriend. I wonder how long that will last, but I think it's sad hes lying to his friends. Then again, this said person also was on an alt while his main one was claiming he was dying of cancer of some sort. Classy man...and most of us know who you are. I won't bother to say names.

I've seen others make alts after they claim they quit SL, only to roam around and do the same last thing they made them want to quit last time. Not only that, instead of a fresh start they just keep thrusting their alt into the same old community in hopes they can pass off for someone new. Well..sorry everyone, eventually we all find out who you are. There is really no point in hiding it. An alt should have a purpose, other than holding multiple relationships, harassing or playing mind games. Second Life provides a chance for us to have multiple faces and identities..unlike RL. So maybe it's time to stop abusing it.

Until next time,

Yu