S&M: Keep it Closed

I already have a feeling I may piss a few people off with this post. Then again, check the title of this blog. My job is to write on the controversial matters. Sometimes, I say the things that need to be said but people are too afraid at causing a stir. Well, it's a good thing I a piss people off just by existing... I really can't do much worse right?

Let me begin with a small scenario of last night. I had just finished a fashion blog post via my alt and was feeling pretty good. I decided to stop by at one of my favorite gay strip clubs. It's a happy joint on a friendly sim where people come and hang out. They're known for their social aspect. They have no set DJ's and times. They have no contests. Just fun, people and a lot of areas to play and explore. I myself have been fond of this place because I can hand around and chat with the staff and regulars without feeling pressured to do anything other than just enjoy myself.

However, the environment has recently changed with a few new regulars showing up. And unfortunately, he and those who come with him are the epitome of people who can take a fun, sexy gay sim and turn it into something uncomfortable. This particular patron comes in and gets on stage and dances and strips as he is a staff member. (He is not, but due to a new feature he is allowed to.) This is great, I am sure sometimes regulars want to feel a part of the staff and feel sexy for customers. However, this is becoming a daily routine for this person. What bothers me is that when he is performing, he is usually doing it by displaying his ownership over his little group of slaves.

Yes. He is the quintessential Master with this flock of Slaves. The type who will show up anywhere...with their collars and leashes. The type where the Master will openly emote that he's cumming in his slaves mouths,  making references to watersports while his mewling entourage cry for more from their beloved Master. The kind that I am sure, given the type of sim they are on...make many people around them uncomfortable, including myself. While I am sure they are enjoying themselves..and maybe some of the patrons, I am also well aware of the people who just stand and gawk at this crude display of ownership. Not only are they left out, they're grossed out.

But why Yu? You're just being a goddamn prude. Let them be!

This is not me being prude. The SHIT I have done and do would cause the average person to call the police on me and my partners. But here is the kicker: I keep it behind closed doors. The Master/Slave, D/S, BDSM lifestyle..while VERY hot indeed...is still a fetish. A fetish is something that is not shared  by everyone. Everyone has their own pleasures. Therefore..I think the amount of Masters on SL dragging their slaves around the various sims that are not designed for that are being disrespectful to the other people around them. I'm sorry, but not everyone want's to see how you treat your slaves or how much they love your punishment. I have seen these people come to regular clubs, to shopping sims, or to just regular casinos. I'd be happily getting gacha items at the ARCADE and next to me is a nearly naked woman on her knees, being dragged around by some hulking man in bad medieval clothes while he ponders what to buy his "pet".

Do you see the problem? The place I usually haunt is a strip club. It's open for fun filled, naked, stripping and even some public sex. I do not think, however it is open for crude displays of subjugation. There are plenty of DUNGEONS and BDSM sims where Masters can take their Slaves to play and interact. Hell, there are even sims were you can participate in Auction. Sims are created for this reasons. This is why people who are into GOR go to GOREAN sims, but are otherwise behave normally outside. I have been friends with many slaves AND their masters. I respected them because when they went to my DJ sets or clubs, they danced, talked and acted like a normal couple/friends/whatever. Never once did my friends start telling his slaves to kneel down and start crude displays of their ownership.

I realize the whole publicity things gets them off. Again, there are sims and themed clubs dedicated for that. I think the problem is people do not want to say anything because it is such a popular fetish.

 However, for comparison lets say a couple is turned on by stuffed animals. Yes, stuffed animals. And they go to clubs, and sims, and shopping malls with their stuffed animals. Aww how cute. But then suddenly..BAM. One of them turns on a hud and they start humping the poor teddy bear for all eyes to see. Not only do they hump it in public, but they also scream and shout in local chat how hot it is and how they love to fuck their stuffed teddy in public while their partner openly jacks off to the display.

Don't you think people would say something then? Even if the sim was rated Adult, do you not think people may be disturbed, confused or even weirded out by the display? Of course they would. Because I am a firm believer that such things.. including your darkest fetishes are meant to be contained in either an environment that promotes it..or in the bedroom/IM box. Just because you personally think it's hot, does not mean everyone else will.

I believe these people who do this are either ignorant and do not know better or rude and expect people to conform to their lifestyle. I am sad to say that this recent, almost daily display has turned me off to one of my favorite spots. I honestly think that they should tone down their bedroom behavior when out in front of other people, especially if it promotes something that some people may feel uncomfortable with. While I think everyone is allowed into this particular establishment, I feel like they should behave in a way that is welcoming to everyone around them. Being rude, being unfriendly or acting like jerks is not the only way to drive away customers and regulars.

Therefore, whatever your thing is. If it's whipping your boys with a crop, giving golden showers, verbally abusing a masochistic pet, or even humping a stuffed teddy bear.. please go to the proper sims for that..or hell, do it at home or in your IM box.

We're here to have fun, flirt a little..and hell maybe even a little public sex. We are not here to see your daily fetishes being openly displayed and forced in our faces though. It's common respect.

So remember kids, just because you like licking others in the eyeballs, doesn't mean they will enjoy it.

Signed,

- Yu